Humbling moments #1
Vices
July 10, 2020
Growth vs fixed mindset
July 16, 2020
One of the most humbling events I have ever experienced took place in my teens. While I do not recommend parents subject their children to this treatment, I acknowledge this single act steered me to never again blindly underestimate people.
I was 15-16 years old at the time and had been wrestling for several years and foolishly believed I was somehow a tough guy because of it. One Saturday evening, a few mates and I went to a house party and were talking among a circle of people. The conversation at the time was about who amongst the group would be the best fighter? One of my mates said that I would probably be the toughest from having a wrestling background. For some reason, even with my street fighting record of 0-1, I recall saying to an older boy who was dating one of my friend’s older sisters that I could probably drop him without trying.
His response was different to what I had previously experienced in any wrestling match or when play fighting with my own brothers. He grabbed my testicles and squeezed. I stood there incapacitated, unable to move or speak. He asked me if I was so strong how come I couldn’t defend his attack to which I couldn’t reply. When he eventually let go, I was embarrassed and ridiculed by my friends. I said some smart-arse remark to him in front of the group to try and preserve my fragmented ego but the lesson had been taught.
20 years later, I occasionally see him and we make small talk on how we’re doing in life. His children attend the same school as mine. It’s funny, even though that encounter occurred over 20 years ago, I still feel slightly intimidated when we speak almost as when two dogs meet and the subservient dog lowers its tail while the dominant canine’s remains upright.
While I didn’t enjoy the lesson, I am grateful for what it taught me and think I was able to avoid many painful encounters after that experience by being more aware of my surroundings and never underestimating those around me. Have a think about any blind spots you may have that could be hindering your view.
PDR
